Monday, April 8, 2013

Garlic & Kale Smashed Cauliflower

Can I write about food here?

I'm on a self-imposed diet.  I'm trying to keep my youthful figure, even though I'm upwards of that half-century mark where everything heads south, best intentions notwithstanding.  So, I've become a low carb, low glycemic kind of gal.  I also avoid fried foods, but more because frying tends to destroy perfectly good vegetables than that it's bad for me.  I know it's bad for me, but the best food in the universe is a french fry, and really crispy onion rings are right behind.  And a few other things, but I won't go on.  I occasionally do indulge.

Mostly I'm good.

I've noticed that when I don't record my recipes, I can't remember how I made something.  This has been vexing for baked goods, because, while I can pretty much improv anything else, I'm not much of a baker.  Tony likes his sweets, though, so it's worse than a shame when, after spending ages trying to force almond flour and sweetener substitutes into ice creams, cookies, brownies and bars that pass the Tony taste test, I can't remember how I made them.  From now on I record.

Today I'm not baking.  Today I am missing mashed potatoes.  I thought I would try to replace it with smashed cauliflower.  I read half a dozen recipes, and then created my own.  Here goes.  Maybe I'll remember to take a picture and post it here before I eat it.  Maybe not.

Garlic & Kale Smashed Cauliflower

Ingredients

One head of cauliflower, cut into large florets
Enough vegetable broth to cover cauliflower in a pot
Olive oil
3 cloves of garlic, chopped into smallish pieces
Two cups of kale, cut or torn into medium size pieces
One cup of basil, torn into medium pieces
1/4  cup grated parmesian cheese (optional)

Put the cauliflower and the broth into a pot big enough to hold them with room.  I actually made a vegetable-based broth because I only had left over Turkey broth in the house, and meat and cheese do not co-mingle in my kitchen.  I also think the gamier flavor of meat broth would overpower the basil flavor, but I'm not sure about that.  If you try it, let us know.

Making a vegetable broth, by the way, is an easy way to get rid of vegetables that are limping along in your refrigerator wondering if you even remember they're there.  If you already have broth, that's great.  But if not,  click here to check my fast and easy recipe for Vegetable Bin Broth.

So, where were we?

Oh, yes, the cauliflower is now in a pot, with broth to cover.  Bring to a boil on medium high heat, then reduce heat to low and simmer.  While you are waiting for the cauliflower, rinse and chop your garlic, kale and basil, if you haven't already.

After 10 minutes, the cauliflower should be done enough to move a fork through the vegetable easily. It's best not to overcook it, to preserve nutrients, flavor and texture.   Use a strainer to catch the cauliflower, pour off the broth, let it cool, and refrigerate it for another use.

Put the cauliflower back into that pot or a smaller one, and mash it with a potato masher, mixing in a tablespoon of good olive oil, and salt and pepper to taste.  Put the cauliflower aside.

In another pan, heat a tablespoon of olive oil, and add the chopped garlic.  Stir over medium heat until the creamy shade of the garlic begins to darken to a beige color.  You'll want to watch carefully, because garlic goes from beige to burnt fast.  Burnt garlic gives your oil - and hence your dish - an acrid flavor, forcing you to pitch the oil and start over.

When the garlic is ready, add the kale and stir.  It will begin to wilt within a couple of minutes. If you hear sizzling or cackling, add a bit more oil and reduce the heat.  As soon as the kale starts to wilt, toss in the basil. Stir for another moment, until the basil starts to wilt  too, and then remove the pan from the heat.  If you're ready to eat, move on to the next step.  If not, let it cool, and refrigerate the greens and cauliflower in separate containers until you are ready to eat.

When you are ready to serve, reheat the cauliflower if necessary, stirring in a few tablespoons of the left-over broth. Stir in the greens. If you want cheese, stir that in too.  When the cheese "disappears" into the dish, it's melted and you're ready to serve.  Serves four.




Sunday, December 18, 2011

Ode to You, ASU - NLM 160!





Dear Students of NLM 160 Voluntary Action and Community Leadership:


FINALS ARE GRADED.  I left comments about your individual exams in the Bb gradebook.

I'm very proud of this class.  There were 13 perfect 100 point exams! If we were together, I'd make you give a standing ovation to these students.

The graph above shows the spread of your scores. Although there are a couple of very low scores, you will see that they are quite skewed toward the high end of the scale.  Only seven of you earned less than a B.  


Some might say, "Well duh, you gave us the exact selection of text where we could "look" for the answers." Well, yes I did list the readings I wanted you to refer to for each question.  However, that's not really what we're seeing. 


By asking you to find an organization online and apply the information in the readings to that organization's situation, you demonstrate that you can use the information in a real life situation.  I want to know whether you can apply what you've learned, not whether you can memorize and spit information back to me.


If you can't take what you learned in class and apply it, then I've only done half my job. 

The amount of work involved in reading 60 exams is well worth the trouble, because it gives me an opportunity to see exactly what you've learned this semester and what didn't work. Here are the two biggest mistakes, both of which I consider minor because they are definitional, not substantive:

(1) About two-thirds of you wrongly identified an organization as fitting the community building model. There were two common mistakes, (a) the organization fit the civic model but worked inside a geographically bound location, or (b) the organization were "support" organizations for community building organizations, but were not, themselves, community building organizations. 

(3) About a third of you do not realize that "framing" means the way we craft language - rather than tactics - to create powerful messages that express an ideology (Lakoff). 

NOW, HERE IS WHAT IS BRILLIANT ABOUT YOU

The beauty of this exam was that I got to see that you are capable of figuring out what these organizations were doing right, and what wasn't working for them.  You were able to identify the assets they bring to their endeavors, and suggest other resources that might improve their work.  You had thoughtful suggestions about better strategies to further their causes.   


You noticed where their framing was successfully pulling others into their work, and where their framing was frightening potential allies away.  


You were able to trouble-shoot, innovate, and suggest ways that very diverse organizations could work together. I marveled over and over again at your brilliant solutions for thinking about how diametrically opposed organizations could find a way to come together. 


A couple of you rose to challenges like joining Westboro Baptist Church or Pro-Life organizations with LGBT groups, or "out there" protest groups like PETA or Rolling Thunder with quiet cultural centers or youth education organizations! Do you realize that if you employ these skills in real life, you will bridge gaps that have stymied older generations? 

One of the most impressive things you showed me was that you know that if two groups are not ready to work together, there are still preliminary places they can meet and engage. They can pair off for conversation and get to know each other as individuals. They can convene to simply tell their stories, without any future obligation at all. There is always a starting point for trust-building.  

I don't believe in grading on a curve. I believe in making sure you walk out of my class with solid knowledge. You guys did a marvelous job and should pat yourselves on the back. 

Oh yeah, and my other favorite thing about this exam: Those who skated without reading the assignments during the semester have surely read them by now. No getting these excellent grades without reading the material! 

You were a great class. I learned as much from you as you did from me! 

Enjoy your holiday break, and when you do really amazing things in your future, which I know you all will, please let me know about it!

Warmly,

Sandy Price

Friday, December 9, 2011

So Many Fishies, So Little Time



"One guy could be the driest man in the universe, giving practical birthday gifts - think paying for a window washer so I don't have to get out the ladder.  The other guy could take me to the moon, turn life into something beautifully, romantically surreal. Of course, he might be poor as a dog, spending all that time writing poetry."  




In a world where most people are paired by my age, and I don't meet that many single Jewish guys in the course of my normal day, I have found a place on the online dating sites.  One such site, Plenty of Fish, has as many Jewish guys as JDate, and because the service is free, why not?  That also means I am approached by non-Jewish guys in about the proportion that non-Jews are represented in the overall population.  The interaction on these sites can be so amusing, such a study of human thought and longing, that friends have urged me to save the responses I get and write.  I've never wanted to do that until today.  Today I got two such diametrically opposed letters that I couldn't help but share.


So, to begin, I actually got more than two letters.  This morning was typical.  I received several emails - maybe eight or ten.  The majority of them started and finished with something like, "You're beautiful [hot, pretty, sexy, just what I'm looking for, etc].  When can we meet?"  This is flattering, but it is also indicative that the fellow is flipping through profiles looking for someone he can sleep with without putting a bag over her head.  If I'm up to testing this theory, I can simply check his profile, and "yup, he's not Jewish."  That is a sure signal that he didn't read my profile, in which I have three paragraphs of explanation about why - I mean it - I am only dating Jewish men.  I don't even respond to these bag men.  There are simply too many.  


What, you ask, if he's a Jewish bag man?  LOL.  I wish.  


To be fair here, we are all animals and physical attraction is worth something.  The few times I've been tempted to break my own rule about dating Jewish guys, it's because I have a strong physical attraction to someone's picture, then read into the profile and see that they're interesting too.  I have to fight those urges down, so I get it.


There's a more intelligent variation on the above tactic.  These guys say, "I loved your profile.  Check mine and tell me if you're interested."  While it purports to be interested in what I wrote, it's a no-brainer that he's secretly interested in the photo.  You can tell because he doesn't mention a single thing I actually wrote about myself.   Again, I can check my theory, and as soon as I read something like, "Good Christian, loves Jesus," or just plain "Episcopalian" in the Religion box, I am confirmed. 


Today, for example, I got a note from one Javier that said this, "You have a very sincere and open profile.  Really tells alot about yourself.  My name is Javier and I would like to get to know you better and hopefully go out and have dinner."  Javier, it turns out, is Catholic - and 32 years old.


I usually answer these, because it humors me to be honest, with something like, "You didn't really read my profile, did you?  LOL."  


I hope the "LOL" tells them that I get that he's being, as Bill Engval would say, "just a guy."  I'm not really being too snarky.  


Sometimes they come back with, "Well, you're right, I didn't read your profile, and now that I have, I apologize.  I'm not Jewish and I wish you well."  Answer:  "Thank you."


Other times they come back with, "You are limiting yourself.  You don't know where love will show up.  Please reconsider."  Answer:  "We all limit ourselves.  Some won't date someone with an opposing political view.  Others limit by body type. If you were attracted to me, I bet you passed right by all those well-rounded mamas you saw.  I have a few rounder girlfriends, and you know what, they're every bit as interesting, loving, sexual - as I am.  You're really limiting yourself."  


But my favorite is, "I didn't realize you were a prejudiced bitch.  Glad I don't have to meet you."  Answer:  [none].  Or, occasionally, if they didn't call me a bitch - just prejudiced - I tell them that my first husband wasn't Jewish, and that, although we used the same words, our underlying value system was different.  That I want someone who shares my nostalgia for my holidays and rituals.  But mostly, why talk to a wall?


Not to mention, the old saying, "Yes means yes, maybe means yes, and no means maybe to a man."  If I even continue the conversation, I'm apparently letting the man know that I'm open to talk - and hence reconsider.  So, I don't respond more often than a polite Kansas girl thinks in her heart is correct.


But getting back to my typical day.  I got two very interesting emails this morning, in that they are very different.  I don't usually write about this stuff, but these two approaches were so distinct, that they warranted a blog post.  The first writer is obviously a left-brained fella, and he's using reason and evidence to convince me that I'm lucky to have his attention.  The bottom line:  "There aren't that many men in the barrel, and if one comes along, I should grab him up."  I should tell you that this man has been pursuing me for months, AND is Jewish, and I've turned him down repeatedly on the grounds that he's ten years younger than I am.  I will date someone 5 or 6 years on either side, but I confess to a bit of insecurity about what happens when my looks take their last breath, and the man in my bed wakes up one morning to find Granny Clampet laying next to him.  Is he out the door, or does "In sickness and in health, in beauty and in decline..." mean anything to him?  Will we have enough money to keep me in botox?   


I experienced this fear, whether or not irrational, when I dated a man 9 years my junior for three years.  He was fine with it, but his friends were his age, and their wives and girlfriends were 15 years younger than I.  I have always been satisfied with myself.  I don't see myself as a great beauty - more like the girl next door.  Very happy with that.  I've learned over time that I'm not for some men, and others will like how I look very much.  But hanging around women who are 15 years younger than you can be intimidating.  You immediately start realizing all the ways you're aging.  Your skin texture is different.  They can still eat everything under the sun without effect.  Their thighs haven't started leaning on their knee caps yet.  Whatever it all is, it's like having the fact that you age - yes, I know it's inevitable - thrown into your face.  Nobody likes to look aging in the face.  


Anyway, the first writer is 10 years my junior.  Otherwise I'm sure we would have met by now.  Here's his latest argument - and as a teacher, I do have to credit him for doing his research! 


"There are 80 men for every 100 woman in the United States. Over age 40 that number becomes about 77 men to every 100 women.


30 % of the population in Arizona is considered Obese  47% of the population is considered overweight.

The number off single men over 35 as compared to single women is 2 women to every guy 2-1 which means if a guys is attractive enough for you there is at least 1 other person he could be dating. 10% of the population is unemployeed. 70 % of the men over 40 have been married at least once and have children. Which means the odds of finding a single in shape man over 40 with a job no kids is 1 out of five. Which make me feel very good about me.. Oh due to the current mortgage crissis a home owner you don't want to know..I feel even better. 

46 of the adult population is not married using the ratio 100 million unmarried males and females.

The median male income in Arizona was 33000.00 per year. So a single guy who makes 3-5 times that a year and is not married well let's just say it's about 1 in 22. I believe ever one deserves the best it's just how we define it."  




It's hard to argue with him by these statistics.  He's a catch!  And age difference or no, I should realize my good luck.  He's persistent too.  I'll give him that.


The second writer, obviously, has either been schooled in how to appeal to the romantic side of a woman, or is a romantic himself.  You never really know.  But he wrote a poem. Or he lifted someone else's poem without crediting the author.   But you have to give him credit, whether he wrote it or lifted it, for choosing it.  I assume he did not write this poem for me personally, and that he uses it with any woman he approaches. 


"i want to touch you... yes your flesh 
but more than this i want to handle 
bright glorious fabric of your soul 
with gentle hands of my heart 
let it slide though fingers 
of patient understanding 
like colorful fine silk 
leaving behind it 
indelible sense 
of your true 
uniqueness 
i want to know you, every part of you 
all your heights of obstinate courage 
and darkest depths of fervent fear 
each wild fantasy you entertain 
and gloomy reality you face 
i want to hold you close 
and kiss you so deeply 
soul to soul with lips 
flaming imagination 
on fire with desire 
for me alone"



One of these guys could be a rock.  Stable and realistic and there for you when you need someone to be there for you.  The other guy could spend his days in flights of fancy, his feet never really touching the earth.  Or one guy could be the driest man in the universe, giving practical birthday gifts - think paying for a window washer so I don't have to get out the ladder.  The other guy could take me to the moon, turn life into something beautifully, romantically surreal. Of course, he might be poor as a dog, spending all that time writing poetry.  Can we eat poetry?


I know there are stories just like this on the other side - the male side - of this gender gap.  I have heard stories about the women who ask you right up front how much money you make, or try to move in after the very first date.  


So, these are the choices we singles get to make every day.  The mating ritual can be so interesting.


Oh, and if you know any nice, intelligent, single Jewish guys between the ages of say, 48 and 58, be so kind as to introduce me!



Monday, September 26, 2011

UPDATE - Is this the Facebook, er, World we want?

Earlier this afternoon, I posted my concerns about the Facebook privacy changes.  They are really confusing, and if we happen to be friended on Facebook, you can read my pal Dan Notov's running commentary as he tries to figure out how to make a completely clean public Fb wall.

Because that's what the wall used to be - completely blank unless you specifically set it to let others see it.  


That's what we suppose it still is unless we go to some special profile edit page and use a button that lets us see what the Public sees when they look at our wall.  I'll ask Dan to come back to the blog and put his findings up when he's figured it all out.

So, knowing this is all in Dan's good hands - he's a computer geek - I decided to do something else.  I have a bunch of open windows - Google Chrome Browser, by the way - and I thought I'd see what I'd parked till after I finished today's grading, and then close them down.

Well, the first thing I noticed is that the ads on every single page were very predictable.  They all, without exception, had the two shoe ads you can see on this blog.  If you know me well, you know I love to be outdoors.  Because of the heat, I prefer sport sandals over any closed shoe, even though, as my friends like to point out to me, I'm more likely to take a pebble than if my foot is closed into a lace-up shoe with socks.  I also narrow down the selection by looking for shoes that have a toe guard, which basically means the sole wraps up in front and creates a bumper for my toes.

As you can see, someone, aka Google, has been taking stock of my preferences, and putting pics of the two pairs of shoes I spent the most time looking at right in front of my face.

No, I did't buy them...yet.  But these photos sure are tempting me.

What's all this have to do with Facebook?  Well, nothing yet.  But I'm wondering just how much more privacy Google+ really provides.  It is a Google network, and John likes it because it is tied into other Google applications.  If Google Chrome tracks me like this, what's to say Google+ doesn't follow me around the web too?  I'll have to see if John will explain all this.

If you have any info, please jump in...

Is this the Facebook we want?

John, one of my good friends, has become paranoid enough about privacy issues on Facebook that he's removing himself (mostly) and transferring his social networking life to Google+.   You know what they say about paranoia.


Just because you are paranoid doesn't mean they aren't out to get you.  

I say "mostly" because John still maintains a silly little private page a few of us have going, and he will be subscribing to his friends without "friending" them.  He sent me a link to a couple of interesting articles written by computer geeks, but clear enough at least for the most part to frighten me too.

The changes on The New Facebook seem to include the ability of Facebook to automatically post every location you're at, every website you visit, etc, without asking you if you'd like to share it.  I don't spend any time on porno sites, but I'd rather not have anyone know how much time I've spent on Amazon.com looking at shoes.

But what really bothers me, if I'm understanding correctly, is that people can now "subscribe" to your wall and see everything on it, whether or not they are friends.  This is completely antithetical to the idea that you can control who sees your wall by specifying only "friends," "friends of friends," etc.  And it appears to be true, because John could subscribe to my wall after he unfriended me.  He could not post, but he could read it.  My settings say "friends of friends," but since he has unfriended all his friends, I shouldn't be showing up for him, even if he's subscribed.  Or so I thought.

The import of this development - that anyone, anyone at all can see everything on my Facebook wall - is troublesome to me.  While I'm trying to decide if  I should wean myself off of Facebook, I thought I'd share the links John sent me.  Parts of them are written in Computer Geek, but if you're not a computer geek, just scroll past that and it becomes English again.

Here's the first one, by Dave Winer, "Facebook is Scaring Me," explains the privacy impacts of the recent Facebook changes.  By the way, when John tried to put the link into a Facebook message, Facebook error messaged me, saying:

Attachment Unavailable
The attachment source was deleted or the privacy settings on this attachment do not allow you to view it.


John, though, is smarter than Facebook, and he got it through!

The second article, "Logging out of Facebook is Not Enough," by Nik Cubrilovic, picks up where Winer left off, explaining the technology and making some suggestions - as I said, scroll past the tech stuff if you're not interested.  There is also a wealth of information in the discussion thread below, including a letter from a Facebook employee explaining some of their practices.  Nik isn't buying much of it, though, and explains why in a follow-up post.

This is fascinating.  I don't think I have much to hide, but then... I'm still job hunting and who knows what information might impact someone's hiring decision.

I'm seriously considering following John's lead and moving to Google+.  The problem there is... it's not intuitive and I think it's going to be difficult figuring out how to use it.  I'm such a wuss.

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Bubbl.us?

Tonight I'm trying to figure out some workshop exercises to help thinkers get out of their ruts.  Sometimes using visualization - forcing people into the creative side of their brain - results in the flow of new ideas.

So, using my past employer, The Nature Conservancy, as a model, I hand drew a "community" of people and organizations who care about preserving the ecosystem.  It included cute little cartoonish hunters, hikers, teachers, etc.

My work of art really wasn't that skillfully drawn.  First, I don't have time for that tonight.  Second, I didn't want to scare my attendees away from the project by giving them something to live up to.  But, from my years of experience teaching art, I realized that even my goofy cartoons were going to intimidate some folks.  So, I went off in search of a mapping tool that would quickly let me draw boxes to label, instead of the actual characters.

I found bubbl.us, a free mapping tool.  It's fun.  The address is www.bubbl.us.  Here's the map I made for my workshop.  If I'd had more time tonight, I would have monkeyed with shapes and colors.



Very cool! Try it. It's free.

Friday, June 3, 2011

I'm Sorry. So Sorry.



So today I think I might have but don't really know if I potentially caused a potential disagreement, not even a real one as far as I know yet but I'm still worried about whether I did, between two guy friends. I immediately felt guilty and apologized. And then I apologized again because they didn't accept my apology fast enough so it's probably not enough of an apology.  Then I saw the blog below. 


They're probably both so having a beer together at this very moment.


By blogger Shaheen Raja:  
"New research by psychologists at the University of Waterloo, found women apologize far more than our male counterparts, and we say "we're sorry" to strangers a heckuva lot more than we do to family members. In two studies that measured the frequency and reasoning behind apologies, there was a clear-cut gender gap. "Findings suggest men apologize less frequently than women because they have a higher threshold for what constitutes offensive behavior,"  the Canadian psychologists explained.

So what exactly is this "offensive behavior" women fear they're unleashing on the world?

"I apologize to people on the subway who bump into them, as though I've been offensive to them, simply by taking up space on earth," says Amy, 32.

"I've said sorry to guys I've dated for not acknowledging that they're trying, even if they're trying and failing," says Leah, 27.

Sandra Elmoznino, a 27-year-old teacher tells the Wall Street Journal all she has to do is call a friend too early or arrive somewhere a few minutes late and she's asking forgiveness.  "I want to be in everyone's good graces," she explains. "It's an anxiety thing."

If anxiety stems from lack of control, is it possible women see apologizing as a form of taking back the reins? "For women, apologizing is a way of reconnecting with someone whose feelings you have hurt, however inadvertently," writes psychologist Sam Margulies on his blog at Psychology Today. "A breach in the relationship is avoided and the relationship continues undisturbed. Neither the woman offering nor the woman receiving the apology regard it as unusual but rather see it as a routine aspect of relationships."

For men, it's just the opposite. "Men tend to view apologies as humiliating and a loss of face," suggests Margulies. "Men are more conscious of the impact of what they say on how others perceive their power position or lack of power. So for a man to acknowledge that he has done something wrong often means that he feels diminished in the eyes of those who hear the apology."



PLEASE READ THE REST OF THE ARTICLE BY CLICKING HERE.

Source: http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/study-finds-women-apologize-more-than-men-why-2401376/;_ylt=ArP6Arrdh3kCdphHFdTMV5VabqU5